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Ramana Maharshi said, “Happiness Is the very nature of the Self; happiness and the self are not different.”   

If that is true, why are so many of us not happy?  The world health organization estimates that 300 million people worldwide have depression.  More than that are experiencing occasional sadness, loneliness, or grief.  And in a 2016 Harris Poll of North Americans only 33% said they were happy. 

If happiness is our nature of self—why aren’t we happy?

And what can we know about getting happy?

 


 

 

Depression 

First, indulge me, let me take a detour to talk about depression at bit. Though depression is not directly our topic today, as a former psychologist, I just have to mention it. 

Depression is a prolonged and profound state of sadness which gets in the way of your daily life and makes it harder to do the things you love. It is characterized by:

Symptoms of Depression:

Sad, empty, or anxious. It will continue over time without getting better or going away.

Helpless, worthless, or guilty. You may feel bad about yourself or your life or think a lot about losses or failures.

Hopeless. You may be pessimistic or believe that nothing good will ever happen. You may even think about suicide.

Irritable. You may get restless or more cranky than usual.

Sleep and eating disruptions or disorders.

Negative thoughts. You may even have suicidal thoughts.

Lack of energy. You may experience loss of interest in life and activities. 

If you are experiencing these symptoms and they are prolonged, please seek profession help.  80% of US people who have depression do not seek help.  So please be one that does seek professional help. 

I also suggest getting medical testing for neurotransmitters and hormones. The biology of emotion is well researched.  The notion that neurotransmitters effect depression is also well researched.  When we supplement and balance the body’s chemicals, it can really help us to come up out of the depths. 

To address the bio chemical imbalance of depression, most psychologist or psychiatrist will suggest anti-depressants.  But you should also know, there are natural alternatives. These include supplements for supporting neurotransmitters and hormones, exercise, sunlight, and heathy eating. 

I have many clients who have used the natural approaches and find that within a few months they pop up enough to do the rest of the things we will talk about in this episode and feel better. But to be properly diagnosed and dosed, you should be medically tested first. Again, seek a reputable practitioner, naturopath, or herbalist for your natural solutions (do not just dose yourself).  

Many psychologies and psychiatrist may say testing is not needed.  Or they will argue that it is not fully accurate.  But I will give you three good reason to do it anyway: 

1) There are many antidepressants and supplements that are used for depression and all do different things. No single practitioner can be expected to stay up on it all. Testing will allow your practitioner to tailor what you take to what you really need.

2) Many people get a feeling of relief from seeing that part of what they are feeling is that their body is out of balance. It is not just all in their head. It is not their fault, nor are they a bad person. Their body got out of balance. And it can be taken care of.

3) Our Mind/ Body experience does have a body we need to pay attention to. Though many of our approaches will work with the mind to influence the body, the body also influences the mind.  Putting the body in balance is a way to influence mind and emotions. 

I also believe that the soul influences both the mind and body.  Those will be the approaches we focus on today. 

However, before we leave the topic of depression, getting body support is not the only thing that is needed.  You must also look at the underlying issues that created the depression in you.  When you combine body support with healing work on the underlying issues and then add the mind and spiritual practices we suggest today, you can come out of depression.

Let me give just one example of the clients I have had.  A lovely woman who had experienced childhood abuse and since then had a number of very abusive and negative relationships.  When she first came to me, she had been diagnosed with clinical depression. We worked on the underlying issues.  She sought help from a good naturopath for supplementation.  We purified and empowered the womb chakra, and she did the practices we will talk about today. A number of months into her healing process she sent me a note to say that for the first time since she could remember, she woke up happy.

That is what this is all about. Wake up happy, live the day happily, go to sleep happy.  That is what we all want and what is possible.  So, let’s look at how to get there. 

 

Understanding the Spiritual Version of Happiness

Many spiritual teachers (like Ramana Maharshi) say that happiness lies deep within us, it is the very core of our being. It is an energy of the divine, of God’s nature, and of the God within us and our soul energy. 

So, the first key to lasting happiness is to look within. Happiness is an internal state of being –a state of God consciousness.   And thus, it is a natural state of our soul energy. 

“Happiness is your nature. It is not wrong to desire it. What is wrong is seeking it outside when it is inside.” ~ Ramana Maharshi

So, we will not find our happiness in anything external to us-- not in things, or jobs, or even other people. This is because: 

1) These things are all transitory.  Jobs, money, and people all come and go in life. If we depend on them for our happiness, then that happiness will end sooner or later.

2) These are things of the illusion. Therefore, they are keyed to bring us our karmas and lessons. Though we need our lessons, it is often the case that in being faced with our karmas, there is a struggle and difficulty we must meet.  We need our happiness intact in such times of struggle so that we can meet our karmas and win our lessons.  

As the Dalia Lama says, “The Purpose of Life Is to Strive for Happiness.”

Happiness is how we win our karmas and advance our souls.

 

Experiencing Your Inner Happiness

How do we experience this hidden happiness of our soul nature? 

First, We Have to Calm Our Mind.

Let’s listen to Ramana Maharshi once again, 

“Happiness is a state of being — a state in which our mind’s habitual agitation is calmed. The activity of our mind disturbs it from its calm state of just being and causes it to lose sight of its own innermost happiness.”

 


 

This means meditation, breath, posture practices that calm the mind, and mantra practices to calm mind.  If you need instruction in deep meditation practices that lead to inner peace, I highly recommend a 5-day online meditation course from Divine Lineage. Learn more about the online Teachables course,  'Who Am I' here.

 


 

Many of us know how to meditate, we just don’t.  So, do.  Set aside time that you would have spent watching tv, or looking at your phone, or computer. Meditate your way to the inner self of happiness.

Second, Train Your Mind for Happiness and The Positive  

Dalia Lama has given many speeches on happiness.  This is his number one point: train your mind to happiness and the positive.

As the Buddha said, “We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”  

So how do we do this? 

1) Think Positive

As my Teacher, Sri Kaleshwar said, “Be in positive, stay in positive, enjoy in positive.”

But for some of us, the negative thoughts are in the way.  I have a wonderful mantra to help with erasing negative thoughts.  I mentioned it in an earlier episode about meeting our tests.  Please write to me at cindy@divinelineage.org to give that mantra to you with a full explanation of its use.

But let me tell a story of a client of mine who used this mantra.  She is a powerful businesswoman, a top manager, and team facilitator.  She is in a very high-pressure, high tech industry.  On a particular long term project, she and her team were experiencing very abusive and attacking behavior from a distant partner.  Every video conference with this partner was excruciating.  Her team was become demoralized, and she started to experience flashbacks from her childhood in a war-torn country.  

When she came to me, in addition to working these childhood issues, we got her started on this mantra.  She loved it.  It really helped her to get out of negative thoughts and into the positive. She decided to try it at work and took 5-10 minutes before her team meetings to inwardly chant.  If she needed, she would call a break in the meeting and just chant it inwardly for a few minutes before returning.  Over the course of a few weeks, not only was she holding the positive within herself, her team was becoming more positive as well.  And most surprisingly, the attacks from the distant partner began to slowly become less and less.  By the time they entered the climax conference with all the players, it was a productive, smooth and win/win experience.

Happiness and positive thinking are catching.  But it does take some help and training.

2) Shift Your Perspective

In addition to taming the negative thoughts, we need to shift our attention and perspective to the positive.

“Be happy in the moment, that's enough. Each moment is all we need, not more.” ~ Mother Teresa 

Make it a practice to refocus into the beauty, the positive, the divine in each thing, experience, and each moment.

For Yogananda happiness is a choice, “A strong determination to be happy will help you. Do not wait for your situation to change, thinking that, therein lies the trouble.”

How do we practice that strong determination especially when things are not going well?  

 

Decharge and Take it Sporty

It may be in times of stress and negativity that you need to first decharge those energies from you to switch your mind to happiness.  We have talked a lot about decharge on this Soul Talk series.  It is a set of easy to do processes to release negative energy and feel back in balance.  Please listen to the Soul Talk Episode on decharge for the why, when, and how to of decharge.

Once you have decharged the energy, you need to switch your mind. Force your mind to the experience of the divine, love, gratitude, joy.  Hold that strongly enough to get the feeling in you at the moment. Focus on those thoughts and keep feeling them. Enjoy the feeling for a few minutes. Tell yourself things like: “This is the truth of me and from here I can face any illusion;” “It’s all just illusion and will fade, this feeling now is the truth of me endures in me.”

Then you can return to the situation but from a different inner state.  Now it is time to “Take it Sporty” as my teacher Sri Kaleshwar used to say.  I think this means several things:

1) Do not take it so seriously.  

I know what you are thinking – 'But Cindy, some things are serious.'  It may be health, disaster, or family.  But hang in with me here.  it is still just an illusion and it has come to increase your soul energy and soul energy of others involved.  When you become nonattached and open your heart to love, things do change, magically and strangely they change.  So not taking it so seriously (ie. detachment) is a key to change.

You can use decharge to help you get closer to non-attachment. 

2) See the sport in it. The illusion is at play.  You can play too. Focus into how to win at the soul level.   What is there to learn here?  How can I return to inner peace and love?

Sometimes I feel this is our auto deal with the Mother. If we can take the suffering and find our way back to non-attachment, open-heartedness, love, and peace within, then she brings the miracle energy around and through us.

I had to do this lately when a person I trusted betrayed that trust.  The whole thing cost me in financial and material ways, and I was really hurt and angry as well.  I began to feel as if I had been robbed of my natural loving nature and my happiness. 

But my being hurt and angry was not helping anyone or solving anything.  I paid the price and then got myself on the process of asking: how do I return to love?  I can tell you, thinking on how to return to love was a much more pleasant endeavor than rehearsing the betrayal in my mind. But still, it was a tuff journey. And the question also showed me things about myself I needed to see.  In the end, it showed me that my true nature is love, I just need to be it. 

I was love within and no one could take that from me.  I needed to be that love.  No matter how anyone else behaved, betrayed, or acted negative, I need to be the truth of me. I needed to be love.

To help me, I would begin each day with a gratitude practice in the morning.  Remembering all the things I have in my life that I am grateful for.  I would just let myself feel that.  There was no insufficiency in my life.  And no one could take from me the truth of how blessed my life has been. 

Then I would smile. 

Mirabai a saint the 15th century said, “I know a cure for sadness: Let our hands touch something that makes your eyes smile.” 

It is a cure.  It also provides chemical support to your body.  I have said before that you can even force a smile on your face (one in which you get eye crinkles—makes your eyes smile) and hold it for 10-15 seconds and it will start a chemical change in you to feel happier. Repeat it a few times.  You will feel it.

Third, Cultivate Love. Be Love/Bhakti. 

One of the easiest ways to do that, for spiritual people, is Bhakti.  Bhakti is devotional love for the divine. Practice that love.  It is sometimes easier to love the divine than other human beings.  And we can start there. Really feeling that devotion and love begins the opening of our hearts. 

Get an image of the divine being and look their eyes with love.  Open your heart to feel and receive that love. 

Then we can move to humankind by trying to see God in each person we meet.  Holding that love we have learned with the divine and seeing that in others. 

A great audio blog on this and other ways to grow your compassion in the world is at Divine Lineage under Blogs and “what is a good-hearted person.”  Listen here.  

     

Being Love in Relationship

One you feel the love of the divine it time to apply that to your relationships. We have talked about this on Soul Talk before.  Please listen back to those episodes because they give some concrete ways to just stay loving and express and exchange love in relationships.  A relationship is where we really get testing on our loving hearts.  We may be able to be deeply openhearted and loving with God, but can we do it each day with the people around us? That is where we really learn what it takes to stay loving and meet each issue and interaction with a loving mindset. 

We can start by just seeing how we might do things differently if we were entering all our interactions with an open heart and a feeling of inner love.  Imagine a loving interaction with the person telling you your bill is overdue, or with the person delivering the mail.  

Or perhaps we can start with animals.

 

Loving Touch with Animal and People

Remember Charles Schultz “happiness is a warm puppy”?  Well, it seems it might be true.  Research has shown that petting a dog or cat can release feel-good hormones in animals and humans. It can also reduce stress and stress-related illnesses and reduce the need for pain medications.

But why stop at cats and dogs, why not horses, rabbits, or your pet pigs?  The animal-human bond can be a pure form of unconditional love.  And who does not need that—animal or human? 

With respect to human touch, Healing Touch Professionals have studied the effect of compassionate, non-sexual touch, in health and happiness.  Healing Touch is a medical term for energy therapy in which practitioners consciously use their hands in a heart-centered and intentional way to support and facilitate physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health. 

Research shows that getting touched or doing some touching makes you healthier, happier and less anxious. Healing Touch has been shown medically to helps restore and balance energy and improve immune response and improve feelings of well-being and happiness.

When you're in a happy relationship, clasping hands and hugging have also been shown to reduce stress-related brain activity.

But we are not talking sexual touch here because that is a deeper subject. Such an intimate exchange has many other ramifications.  So today let’s stay with human touch that is low in Kama energy and non-sexual.

Fourth, Practice Compassion and Altruism 

 

Compassion

This is another point of the Dalia Lama (and many other spiritual teachers).  Overall, happiness is reached by keeping peace with others and one's self, which can be reached through meditation, compassionate thoughts and actions, and community service. This gives our life meaning, which leads to overall happiness. 

Compassionate human affection brings happiness.  As the Dalia Lama put it,  

“Love for others and respect for their rights and dignity, no matter who or what they are: ultimately these are all we need. So long as we practice these in our daily lives, then no matter if we are learned or unlearned, whether we believe in Buddha or God, or follow some other religion or none at all, as long as we have compassion for others and conduct ourselves with restraint out of a sense of responsibility, there is no doubt we will be happy.”

In addition, compassion and affection help the brain to function more smoothly. Secondarily, compassion gives us inner strength.  It gives us self-confidence and that reduces fear, which, in turn, keeps our mind calm. 

 

Altruism and Service

With your compassion why not do good for others? Make others happy. As Yogananda put it, 

“Happiness lies in making others happy, in forsaking self-interest to bring joy to others”. 

When we help others, we get out of our own problems and thoughts.  Open-hearted service to God, other human being, animals, or the earth is good for the world and good for our own souls. 

When we do it with no thought of return or obligation, our hearts are opened.  As Yogananda says—no self-interest. 

This creates a cycle of love.  When we open our hearts and share with others, we start to feel their hearts open. Their surprise, gratitude, and joy continue the cycle of love. 

These acts do not have to be big—they can be small acts of kindness and joy in everyday life. 

And this gets us back to smiling.  Smiling is a lovely act of joy in everyday life. As Mother Teresa said, 

"Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing."

 and “We shall never know all the good that a simple smile can do.”

So, a smile can be a service of love and compassion. 

Fifth, Find Your Soul Fragrance and Live It 

One great point of being happy is we are already uncovering our soul nature and energy.  From there we can start to get a sniff our soul fragrance. Our soul fragrance is the essence of us.  It is our soul nature across lifetimes.  When we begin to know it, we know the truth of our soul and of our connection to all that is. 

And we had an earlier Soul Talk Episode on finding your soul purpose.  So, I won’t repeat those signs and approaches here.

But today let’s engage together in a small meditation exercise to give you the sniff of your soul fragrance.

Form 1

  • Lie down.
  • Put your hand on heart chakra and hold it there.
  • Take long slow deep breaths till you relax.
  • You can even imagine breathing in an out your heart chakra.
  • Once relaxed, put your mind on a time in your life that you felt one of these divine states of consciousness:  Unconditional love, Compassion (without sadness), or Gratitude.
  • Remember that time so clearly that you can feel those feeling in your body now.
  • Once you are enjoying that, tell yourself “this is the truth of me” and really feel that.

Form 2

  • Lie down.
  • Put your hand on heart chakra and hold it there.
  • Take long slow deep breaths till you relax.
  • You can even imagine breathing in an out your heart chakra. 
  • Once relaxed, put your mind on a time in your life when you were doing anything that took you out of time and space, or in which things just flowed through you in a beautiful way--you knew what to say or what to do, or how to do it without thinking.
  • Remember that time so clearly that you can feel those feeling in your body now.
  • Once you are enjoying that, tell yourself “this is the truth of me and a clue to my soul fragrance”.


Cindy Lindsay Rael

has been an energy healer and teacher for 25 years. She has studied with Sri Kaleshwar since 2001. She is a graduate of Kaleshwar's Soul University in India and is a certified teacher of the ancient mantra and yantra systems. Prior to her work in the Vedic tradition, she studied, conducted healing, and taught in the Inca traditions of Peru. Cindy also earned a PhD. in Psychology and was a university professor and consultant.

Cindy conducts both distance and in-person healing sessions and teachings. To read more on her approach to Sai Shakti Healing see www.divinesoulhealer.com. In addition, Cindy offers Divine Baby Blessings to pregnant mothers and works with many issues of the Holy Womb (www.wombhealing.com).

For more information on Teachings, Blessings, or Healings you can contact her at: soulhealer@taosnet.com.

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