By Robert Rabbin (Originally published July 28, 2016 Robert Rabbin. Insight & Action)
Today, I told one of my female public speaking students, “Roar without apology.” I’ve worked with hundreds of women over the years, most of them in the context of public speaking, or authentic self-expression as I prefer to call it. If I had to offer a single piece of advice to all of them, and to all women, if I had to encourage them in the singular direction of their freedom from the tyranny of self-suppression, away from subordination of all kinds and towards their innate wildness and magnificence, it would be this: Roar without apology.(I know that I am treading on thin ice here, a man offering unsolicited advice to women. Hey, after lung cancer, a stroke, and now heading into another round of chemotherapy, I’ll take my chances. I love women!)
The way I see things, women and men are not equal. Women have a power no man can ever attain. We do not have it. We cannot get it. It is the power of creation itself. Birth. Genesis. Men are jealous of this. We are angry, which is why we are so violent. We cannot give life, so we take it. Men experience the power of creation through the destruction of life. We destroy, and in this we feel powerful. Women give birth, and their power is in creation, not destruction. But somewhere along the line, women have become afraid of their power. If they show it, they apologize for it. I say, roar without apology.
Female fierceness is not violent or destructive, not when allowed to roam free. Wild, yes. Unpredictable, yes. Dangerous, yes. Ecstatically primal, yes. Scarily intuitive, yes. And more. Yes. The future of Existence is in your womb. Roar without apology. That is how it is supposed to be. Don’t worry about the men. They’ll figure it out. They’ll be okay.
is an iconoclastic self-awareness facilitator, personal mentor, leadership coach, and public speaking guru. He has published eight books and more than 250 articles on topics such as authentic living and public speaking, leadership, self-inquiry, and meditation. He is the creator of Speaking Truthfully, through which he offers personal coaching and masterclasses in authentic self-expression and public speaking. www.robertrabbin.com